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She is not your rehab
Synopsis
In a humble barbershop in New Zealand, something extraordinary began. Matt Brown offered men more than just a haircut, with him they found a safe place to be seen and heard. No judgement or shame. Just connection, courage, and the chance to break free from cycles of trauma and abuse. From those quiet, honest conversations, She Is Not Your Rehab was born; a global movement redefining masculinity and inviting men to face and heal their own trauma instead of passing it on.
In this powerful book, Matt shares his own journey of living through violence, addiction and survival, as well as sharing stories of men who have sat in his chair. Men who found the strength to become cycle-breakers and walk a different path. This book is an invitation for every man: Your childhood trauma was not your fault, but your healing now is your responsibility.
In 2021, we raised $100,000 for books in prison.
In 2021, we raised over $100,000 to place 10,000 books into prisons across Aotearoa, New Zealand, one for every man currently incarcerated.
This milestone ensured that She Is Not Your Rehab’s message of healing and accountability could reach those often left out of the conversation. Each book serves as a tool to spark reflection, kōrero, and the possibility of change, because we believe every man deserves the chance to heal and break the cycle.
Here's what readers are saying...
This is the most inspiring and hopeful book I have read in many years. It deserves to create the movement that appears to be happening by men for men (and women and children), to help men heal from their early traumas and be the men, husbands and fathers that they want to be. It speaks directly to the causes of domestic and family violence with challenge and compassion. The accompanying website and app continue the momentum and offer accessible, private, individual support for men. Blessings to all involved.
Natalie (Reader)
Incredible. Powerful. A must read for everyone. A call to look at how we show up in the world, and to dare to heal so we can be better partners, better parents, better friends, and better to ourselves. For ourselves, for those who came before us, and those who will walk this earth after us. Dare to heal.
CLJ (U.S Reader)
Matt Brown’s work is the answer to how do we combat the slop of the manosphere. With compassion and empathy Matt recounts his own life story and relationship to his wife (who is also his partner in She’s Not Your Rehab and co-authored this book) to illustrate the life lessons he has learnt that forms the basis of his work in helping men heal and show up for their loved ones. Matt is able to offer kindness and understanding to men without letting them off the hook for their past behaviour; a truely delicate balance. The book is written very matter of fact-ly Matt speaks plainly about his challenging upbringing and doesn’t sugarcoat anecdotes of when he failed to show up for his partner. Because of the content, taking time to disgest this book is a must, but also because of the content this is a must read.